Telling myself, I don't miss you at all

Don't you hate when people tell you," Oh this is just a phase.  It will only hurt for a little bit."  I hate it so much, I just want to scream and pull their hair out.  However, I do neither of those things because when I look back on it, sometimes they're right sometimes they're not.  We spend eighteen years of our life being told how to feel, how to act, what to say, what to do but, when we get out on our own, we're told to make our own mistakes and decisions.  How we do that is up to us.  Today while at work, I saw a little girl, who reminded me of myself when I was younger up until recently.  She wanted chocolate milk, her mother said it was too late for it, and she would have water instead.  I stood waiting a few seconds for the little girl to make a compromise with her mother like many children do.  She surprised me by putting her head down and whispering," yes mommy."  She then turned to me and said," Water will be fine."  She was blinking back tears.  I felt so bad for this little girl and I didn't realize why until it hit me.  She was just a younger version of me.  She obeyed what everyone wanted and tried not to cause a rift because she was afraid.  Afraid of what I couldn't tell you.  I can only speak from my experience of trying so hard to do the right thing and please everyone.  It doesn't work!  Only sometimes does it work.  You can't please everyone and that's hard for some people.  I know I would love to be a perfectionist and do everything right but it doesn't work that way.  There will always be times in your life that you will mess up and you can't control that, no matter how hard you try.  You can learn to fix what you messed up, or walk away from it and hope no one notices.  The second option I don't recommend.  It just causes more trouble, more than anyone really needs in their life.  There will also be times in your life when, no matter what you do it just doesn't seem to be the right thing.  It hurts, trust me I've been through it many times.  Also if something is worth doing, its worth sticking it out.  So, if you're hurting like hell and confused like hell just take a deep breathe and think, do you need this in your life?  Does it make you happy?  If so, its worth waiting for or compromising on.  If not, let it go and find something better.  There is always something waiting to make you happy.  You just have to go out and search for it.  It WON'T come to you.  Good night my lovely followers, and may you enjoy your life with loved ones and may you be loved. :)